For this month's Spotlight Series, let's welcome professional luxury wedding photographer Vanessa Joy of Vanessa Joy Photography. Vanessa Joy Photography captures New Jersey, New York and destination weddings with an aesthetic emphasis on wedding photos with a vintage and rustic flair. She is also a force in the photographic community; having spoken at almost every major convention and platform in the industry like CreativeLIVE, ShutterFest and Imaging USA Trade Show. Vanessa has years of experience in the wedding photography industry and she shares with us her wisdom as it relates to best man speeches. Read on for our chat and take notes.
By now you have probably "sat" through a lifetime's worth of best man speeches. From your experience and perspective as a wedding photographer, can you share with us:
Your #1 best man speech pet peeve?
Any of the clearly Googled jokes and phrases "Here's to love, laughter and happily every after", "I hope this is the day that you love each other the least", "John put your hand on top of Katie's, enjoy this moment, this is the last time you'll have the upper hand."
The key ingredients to a great toast by the best man?
Short, sweet, and if you're adding a personal story, make it one everyone can relate to, not "hey remember how fun that Coldplay concert was?"
The best/unique/most memorable thing a best man has ever done during his speech?
Show genuine emotion. There's nothing that'll grab the room like a man verbally, and maybe with a shaky voice, pouring out his heart to his best bud.
The worst thing a best man has ever done during his speech?
Turn into an inappropriate roast that's not funny, but disrespectful to the bride and all of the family and friends.
How a best man is treated after giving a good speech versus a bad one?
With a best man speech I think you can earn respect or loose it very quickly. A good one leads to praise and heartfelt thank yous from the bride and groom. A bad one leads to hoping the videographer forgot to tape it!
Any advice you'd like to share with present and future best men?
Keep it short and sweet, genuine and respectful. And please, stay off of Google!
A big thanks to Vanessa for taking the time to share with us her best man speech wisdom. For more information on Vanessa and her wedding photography company, visit her website: www.vanessajoy.com.